Defeating Selfishness

It’s one thing to hear the Word of God, and another to hear while deep inside we fight it or reason with it. We can see the scripture, plain as day, and somehow we manage to ignore it or reason with it. We are slow to believe. The bible talks about being quick to believe. There are many stories in the bible where people missed it because they were not quick to believe. They didn’t take it quickly. They always put the responsibility on someone else, and think ‘let’s see what they do about it first’, instead of accepting the responsibility to be quick to believe and quick to obey.

Romans 12: Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. 10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; 11 not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; 12 rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer; 13 distributing to the needs of the saints, given to hospitality.

 (AMP)  Love is to be sincere and active [the real thingwithout guile and hypocrisy]. Hate what is evil [detest all ungodliness, do not tolerate wickedness]; hold on tightly to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another with [authentic] brotherly affection [as members of one family], give preference to one another in honor;

In reference to the scripture above, how do you think people have perverted love?

In what ways have we tolerated wickedness?

For you to try and see the life we live exists on any other foundation is a perversion. The institution of family (church family, and home family, yourself) must be established on a foundation of love (God is Love). The crack in the foundation must be dealt with. We will not have success in anything we do if we do not address the issue with the foundation.

Psalm 82 Rescue the weak and needy; Rescue them from the hand of the wicked.The rulers do not know nor do they understand; They walk on in the darkness [of complacent satisfaction]; All the foundations of the earth [the fundamental principles of the administration of justice] are shaken.

People do not understand the fundamental principle that upholds themselves or their families. Love is the fundamental principle. When we do not understand, or are ignorant of this, then we will continues to address the fruit without addressing the root. We can do a lot of things with fruit but if we do not address the root, then we will start to have trouble with the fruit. What is the fundamental principle that our lives are built on. Its Love.

If we put that on TOP of selfishness, it’s perverted. The roots have been infected. Principles you get from the world don’t last. If we don’t get the issue of love in the right place, nothing in the family will maintain itself because selfishness will start to dominate more than the love of God, then the family goes down. It’s built on a wrong understanding of what love is.

Romans 12:9 says let love be without hypocrisy, or selfishness because selfishness always breeds hypocrisy. Let love be REAL love (the real thing), if it’s not real, rather its hypocrisy. Your love can’t be love if you just talk about it without demonstrating it.  Hypocritical love is saying one thing but doing another. Love can’t be love if you’re just talking about it, but it’s not demonstrating where it needs to. Let it be without hypocrisy. In other words, if you’re talking it but not walking it. All hypocrisy is based in selfishness.

Selfishness seeks to dethrone love. Selfishness is a bold wicked robber. It breaks friendships, wrecks homes, ruins churches, and destroys love. Love is the only force that can destroy selfishness. It’s like walking in the spirit so you won’t fulfill the lust of the flesh. You can’t position yourself where you say you’re “not gonna walk in the flesh” (not gonna watch porn, not gonna do drugs, not gonna drink, not gonna be selfish). The only way to not walk in the flesh is by walking in the spirit.

Have you ever tried to let go of sin without walking in the Spirit? What were the results?

The highest walk in the spirit is the love walk. Flesh is based in selfishness.

Galatians 5 13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.

(AMP) 13 For you, my brothers, were called to freedom; only do not let your freedom become an opportunity for the sinful nature (worldliness, selfishness), but through love serve and seek the best for one another.

I’m the righteousness of God, when we mess up, we go to God repent and ask for forgiveness. Don’t use that liberty as an excuse for you to be selfish. You can take that liberty of forgiveness, and become selfish with it.

14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. 15 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another. 16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

Walking in the Spirit is walking according to the Word of God, but the bottom line of walking in the Spirit is walking in love. When you walk in the love of God, you will not walk in selfishness.

You can say to yourself, “I’m not gonna walk in selfishness” but it’s not going to work. You’re going to be walking in selfishness if you are not walking in love. The only way to not walk in selfishness is to walk in love. The only way out, is in. The only way out of selfishness is love. If we never initiate a love walk (not talk), we never escape selfishness. It’s the only way out. Your willpower will not do it.

The problems we see in our lives or family lives is just a result / fruit of what we have in the roots. If we do not have love there, then we want to look and try to change the fruit without addressing the root.

GOD – Law of the Spirit of life in Jesus Christ



Kingdom of God’s System (Based on the Word)

Life Cycle

Health, Prosperity, Deliverance

Eternal Life with Christ

SATAN – Law of Sin and Death



The World’s System (The World Mindset)

Death Cycle

Sickness, Poverty, Bondage

Eternal Death / Hell


One side will bring life to the family, the other one will bring death to the family. Everything in this world operates in these 2 basic laws, the Law of the Spirit of life in Jesus, and the Law of Sin and Death. A law is an established principle. It will work with anybody that gets involved. Most people will say, I have chosen God, but if you work backwards on the bottom up you might discover that you chose Satan.

Do you see any of the things above (on the right) operating in your life?

The Love of God is the result of the life in Jesus Christ. The Word system has the life cycle turned on. Health, prosperity, deliverance, eternal life comes in your life. That’s what comes when you get saved.

Love is God, and God is Love. Selfishness is Satan, and Satan is Selfishness. In that foundation of selfishness you enable the devil to turn on the law of sin and death and it will operate by fear.

Isaiah 14 13 For you have said in your heart: ‘I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God; I will also sit on the mount of the congregation On the farthest sides of the north; 14 I will ascend above the heights of the clouds, I will be like the Most High.’ 15 Yet you shall be brought down to Sheol, To the lowest depths of the Pit.

 Where you find the spirit that says “I”, you find the spirit of selfishness / Satan.

Revelation 21 8 But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”

 AMP 8 But as for the cowards (fearful) and unbelieving and abominable [who are devoid of character and personal integrity and practice or tolerate immorality], and murderers, and sorcerers [with intoxicating drugs], and idolaters and occultists [who practice and teach false religions], and all the liars [who knowingly deceive and twist truth], their part will be in the lake that blazes with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”

The top of the list says cowards. The fearful. The only thing we are to fear is the Lord. NOTHING else. Not failure, not past mistakes, not your situation, not your finances, not your family, not the opinions of others.
If you don’t deal with selfishness it will deal with you until you are dead. Selfishness is evil and wicked and it will give birth to fear and when fear is there, it will begin to operate. The thing you fear the most will come to pass. If there is fear, there is selfishness.

Selfishness is a mindset. It’s not a behavior.

Genesis 12 Now the Lord had said to Abram: “Get out of your country, From your family And from your father’s house, To a land that I will show you.

Why do you think God wanted him to leave his family?

 Sometimes we have to get out of certain situations. The first thing to change is who is feeding or influencing your mindset. Who is keeping the selfish man alive? That old nature is loaded with self. The new nature is loaded with love. Selfishness is not only destructive, but it leads to poverty. It’s a yoke / bondage that must be broken.

1 John 4 18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. 

 Ok, so if there is fear, what does that mean? That you’re not in love.

 AMP 18 There is no fear in love [dread does not exist]. But perfect (complete, full-grown) love drives out fear, because fear involves [the expectation of divine] punishment, so the one who is afraid [of God’s judgment] is not perfected in love [has not grown into a sufficient understanding of God’s love].

 No stress, no anxiety, no fear.

What are other faces of fear?