Genesis 2:18 (AMP) 18 Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.
Being alone is not the answer to anything. Sometime we get hurt because of being in the wrong relationship and say, well, I’m just gonna focus on me, and what I want. I’m just gonna do me. That’s a worldly answer that will open more doors for the devil to come into your life. Being alone gets lonely after a while. Being lonely, makes us desperate. Being desperate makes things worse.
Marriage is God’s Plan, not mans. It wasn’t Adams idea to have a wife, it was Gods. God knew what kind of helper the man needed. The man did not. God prepared and presented the woman to man.
Jesus Himself endorsed marriage as the pattern for human life. Staying single is mans plan, and it leads to many years of unsatisfaction. The world makes you think that marriage is an inconvenience, and that a career is more important, or an out dated notion, but it’s part of Gods perfect plan. Who’s plans are you going to trust? Gods, or your own?
School drills us the importance of education. You need a career first, go to college. That’s their plan for you, and sometimes we take that plan blindly without even seeing what Gods plans for you are and then we make that a priority. How sad. Don’t let the world tell you how to live your life, let God. We spend at least 14 years learning math, reading, and writing, but how much to we spend learning about marriage. The second most important decision of your life (next to salvation).
Somewhere out there, marriage takes a back seat, and career and success becomes primary.
Romans 12 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Sex outside of marriage is not ok. If you want God to prepare you for marriage, you need to realize that IF you are born again, you are not your own. We need to offer our bodies a living sacrifice. This means that you no longer claim ownership to your body to give away to someone else when you feel like it. You no longer decide where it is to go, what it is to eat or wear, or what kind of service (or career) it’s going to perform. All that is decided now by the One whom you have given it to. God. If you have violated this, then repent and ask Him for forgiveness.
1 Corinthians 5 6 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals,[a] nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.
In response to your surrender, your mind will be transformed and you will change the way you think. This includes your goals, your values, your attitudes, your priorities. All will be lined up with Gods. Until this happens, there are many wonderful things God has planned for you that you cannot discover.
Romans 8: (NKJV) 7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be.
God will not reveal His secrets or open up His treasures to a mind at enmity with Him. When your mind is renewed, you will begin to discover all that God has planned for your life. This unfolding of Gods plan will be progressive. Paul uses 3 words for it. Good Pleasing, Perfect.
Gods plan for you is always good. He never plans bad things for His children. When you see this, you will have to reject the devils lies. He will tell you that it will cost you everything that is interesting or exciting. He will whisper things like” You’ll have to give up everything you enjoy… you’ll be no better than a slave … That’s the end of fun times for you … you’ll lose all your friends … your personality or career will never develop..
In fact the opposite is true. Remember its Gods plan. It’s good. It’s pleasing. It’s Perfect. It will open pleasures that cannot be experienced in any other way. It’s the ultimate way to live!!
His plan is perfect. It covers every area of your life, meets every need, and satisfies every longing. Nothing is left out.
If marriage is God’s plan for you, which it is, unless you are a eunuch, then you can trust Him to make it work, just like He originally designed it. It will be on a level much higher than the world has ever dreamed of.
Maybe you have never really made this kind of total surrender to God. You never offered your body to God as a living sacrifice. Maybe you never knew this is what he was asking of you. But now you are before the gateway of entering into this awesome plan through total surrender. You already start to hear the doubt the devil is telling you. Don’t listen to the enemy.
You are about to open yourself to a life that WILL prove itself richer, fuller, more exciting than you ever dreamed of. None of these cheap thrills the world has to offer, but long lasting satisfaction.
I cannot force you to this decision, not even God can do that, but I can show you how to enter. All that is needed is a decision and a simple prayer.
“Lord Jesus Christ, I thank You that on the cross You gave Yourself as a sacrifice for my sins, so that I might be forgiven and have eternal life. In my turn, I now give myself to You. I offer my body as a living sacrifice on your altar. From now on, I belong wholly to you. Make me what You want me to be; lead me where You want me to go. Open up your plan for my life. I receive it now, In Jesus name.”
Now seal your decision by thanking the Lord. Thank Him that he has heard you.
You are now His responsibility. He will open up every door of His will for you. He will fulfill every plan and purpose he has for your life.
From now on, you do not make your own decisions. You find out what God’s decisions are and make them yours.
Remember also, that God gives His best to those who leave the choice to Him.